Guys dating advice for women
(As much as they may try to convince us otherwise.) The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, so what you see on TV is typically far from what can (and should) be delivered in reality. " That's when it can be helpful for him to hear compliments both in and out of the bedroom.
That's why sex experts chimed in with more accurate insight about what guys really want you to know when the two of you climb into bed. It's believed that men are so consumed by libido that they have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. "[There are] plenty of men who feel very self-conscious about their weight, or parts of their body, and really are affected by this in the bedroom," says Laurie Mintz, Ph. Many are impacted by performance anxiety too, asking themselves questions like, "Will I be able to get an erection? Mintz suggests starting outside the bedroom, when you can have what she calls a "kitchen table sex talk" — AKA a lower-stakes time to discuss things that are bothering you in the bedroom without having to be "in the moment" of, well, having sex.
If you're not usually one to speak up, Mintz suggests trying it solo first.
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Example: "I really love having sex with you, and after we have sex I feel really close and connected.
I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle.
"A lot of men and women don't know this, so they wait to be [turned on] to have sex...
But you can have sex to get [turned on], rather than wait to be [turned on] to have sex." If you have a normative lack of desire and don’t know about it, Mintz says these kitchen table sex talks are especially important because they can help both of you realize what issues are really at hand without feeling attacked, hurt, or rejected.